How Do I Get A Local 5 Person Circle?
I have always liked the saying “you
are the average of the 5 people you associate with most.” My challenge is, outside of work I have
almost zero face to face contact with anyone but my wife and daughter. My weekends and evenings are with them. When we go out it is just us. I don’t have a group of people who I call or
who call me to do things.
I have my online group who represent
my circle. I think the world of them. However, I am not sure that is the intent of
the saying.
The question is, what have I done to
change that? For the most part, nothing. I tell myself I want some local friends, but
I haven’t made the effort to go out and attract them.
We are not shut-ins. We go to various events, however, we don’t
meet anyone there. Only a few people at
work would I consider establishing a relationship with outside of our business
time.
Is the issue that I am just content
not having a circle of friends or is it that I have not made it a priority in
my life. I have to admit that I am very
comfortable spending time alone. I don’t
know what it is, but when my wife goes away for long weekends, I have no
problem just being by myself. The thing
is, I know this is not what is best for me.
I know this is challenging for my
wife. She moved to my town for us to get
married. She has a great group of
friends at her previous town and I know she misses them. She is a very social person. I know what I am
comfortable with is not in line with how she lived before. I am sympathetic to this as I brought her to
my town vice me making the move.
This situation is not unique to this
place and time. Prior to my marriage in
late 2014, I would go many weekends having no contact with people other than a
waitress or grocery check-out person. It
was just how I lived.
I have to decide if I want to change
my current situation. I have to be the
one who takes the action to open up and invite people into my life. I should but………
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